An LLM's Apology: Outsourcing Awkwardness in the Age of AI

Twm Stone; Anna Soligo

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An LLM's Apology: Outsourcing Awkwardness in the Age of AI

Twm Stone·Anna Soligo

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A key part of modern social dynamics is flaking at short notice. However, anxiety in coming up with believable and socially acceptable reasons to do so can instead lead to 'ghosting', awkwardness, or implausible excuses, risking emotional harm and resentment in the other party. The ability to delegate this task to a Large Language Model (LLM) could substantially reduce friction and enhance the flexibility of user's social life while greatly minimising the aforementioned creative burden and moral qualms. We introduce FLAKE-Bench, an evaluation of models' capacity to effectively, kindly, and humanely extract themselves from a diverse set of social, professional and romantic scenarios. We report the efficacy of 10 frontier or recently-frontier LLMs in bailing on prior commitments, because nothing says "I value our friendship" like having AI generate your cancellation texts. We open-source FLAKE-Bench at github.com/Cloakless/flake-bench to support future research.

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Twm Stone, Anna Soligo. 2025-06-16. An LLM's Apology: Outsourcing Awkwardness in the Age of AI. https://arxiv.org/abs/2506.13685

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